THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SM AND ABUSE - a statement from Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM)
SM: An SM scene is a controlled situation. ABUSE: Abuse is an out-of-control situation.
SM: Negotiation occurs before an SM scene to determine what will and will not happen in that scene. ABUSE: One person determines what will happen.
SM: Knowledgable consent is given to the scene by all parties. ABUSE: No consent is asked for or given.
SM: The "bottom" has a safeword that allows them to stop the scene at any time they need to for physical or emotional reasons. ABUSE: The person being abused cannot stop what is happenning.
SM: Everyone involved in the SM scene is concerned about needs, desires, and limits of others. ABUSE: No concern is given to the needs, desires, and limits of the abused person.
SM: The people in the SM scene are careful to be sure that they are not impaired by alcohol or drug use during the scene. ABUSE: Alcohol or drugs are often used before an episode of abuse.
SM: After an SM scene, the people involved feel good. ABUSE: Arfter an episode of abuse, the people involved feel bad.
Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM) is a group for lesbian, bisexual, heterosexual, and transexual women who are interested in exploring SM, fetishes, BD, and uninhibited sexual expression in a safe, sane, consensual, and confidential way.
Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM)
70A Greenwich Ave
New York, NY 10011
Phone: (212) 726-3844